I've sometimes let people push me away, even when I felt like I should pursue them. People that I cared about in the name of not being pushy. Out of fear. Even if I knew they were pushing me away out of fear or their own insecurities. If my first initial attempts to reach out and be friendly were not received warmly I will stop pursuing a relationship. I'm being polite. I'm not a fan of pushing myself in where I'm not wanted. But I know in my head that we often push each other away when we really need each other most. It is such a challenge to overcome our own insecurities and reach past the other person's insecurities and love them anyway. That is how we change each other for good though. That is how love works.